January 20th 2017 (or 1717)


“Okay ladies, now let’s get in formation.”

Today is the day we lose Barack Obama in office and gain a miserable uneducated narcissist as “president”. Today we set the clocks back… way back.. 300 years back. While I have days of wanting to bury my head in my pillow and hit snooze on the alarm clock radio just to make the news go away for another 8 minutes, there comes a time when you need to get out of bed, get dressed and get to work. Now’s that time.

Whenever I read about the holocaust I wonder how someone spewing hate can amass followers and why wasn’t Hitler stopped by anyone? Where was everyone saying this is wrong?  And now I see how that could happen. If his hate speech didn’t personally attack you, it’s easy to say “Im scared of him, but I’ll be safe so I just don’t want to think about it. Ill let someone else deal with it because there’s nothing I can do.” and to me this is the scariest position to take.  I like to think that if I was in Germany at that time, I would have done whatever I could to stop this hate from spreading. Well here we are, in a very similar climate. Now we are all put to the test. Would you have been someone who hides? Are are you someone doing whatever you can to help the cause, or are you leaving it up to someone else? What side of history do you want to be on? I know that the right thing for me to do (in order to ethically live with myself) is to take any and all legal actions I can take. I’m ready to take a stand against this hate.

Im channeling my inner Rosa Parks, my inner Susan B Anthony, my inner Hillary Clinton+Elizabeth Warren, my inner warrior, my inner Ledell + Kat + Don Mulvaney (for those who knew their fighting spirit). My “dukes are up” and I’m ready to action. I’m heading to Washington DC this weekend to take part in the Women’s March and I suggest you do the same. Let the world know that we are here, we are watching and we are ready to fight for what’s right.

If you can’t get to DC, feel free to find one of many marches closest to you HERE. This march reminds me of visiting Iceland and learning that when Icelandic women protest for rights, they all collectively stay home from work to show how important their roles are in the economy and day-to-day in their country. I wish the USA could coordinate as effectively, but this march is a start. It’s the start of something a lot bigger. Volunteer. Donate. Recycle. We have to do everything that our government is deciding not to do. Support the free press- it’s a fundamental part of democracy. Don’t hit snooze, wake up!

January 16, 2017 MLK Day


Everything in life/the world has me crazzzy stressed. I won’t get into that here, as even justing thinking about the future of this country has my anxiety levels going off the charts.

It’s fitting that this week starts with us thinking about others, empathy, kindness and fighting for what’s right and ending the week with a “leader” who opposes all of this. While today I light a candle and have a moment of silence for MLK Day and all that it represents, Saturday I head to DC and have my voice heard as I join the Women’s March. There are days for reflection and days for action. Martin Luther King Jr taught us this, “If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” I hope that the next 4 years are simply a bump in the road that is the progressive future we’ve all been leading.


Tonight, in addition to lighting a candle, I’ll be watching Hidden Figures and paying respect to heroes who didn’t get the credit they deserved because they aren’t white men.

I’ll leave you with a video that really made me think about kindness and how important + contagious it is. We need more of this:


September 26, 2016

I haven’t been here in a while. Life has been so busy and exciting, and also repetitive at the same time, so not much new to report. My week is orders, fill the orders, all week, repeat. Hustle, hustle, hustle.

Fall rolled in over night and with the seasons changing, I feel like exploring some new designs are in order. I love working in wood but lately have been craving exploring a new medium just to keep it fresh and the creative juices flowing. My brain feels like this lately:

We’ll see how successful I’ll be with this, but it’s fun to try something new. Don’t worry, ornaments + CT’s will still be on the docket for holiday gift giving. Next up on my mind… fair displays that are visually interesting and practical. Ideas?

February 2, 2016 Update

It’s February 2, a full month into 2016 and yet I keep writing the date as 2013. I can’t explain it. I spent January doing “Dry January” aka alcohol free in an attempt to help my goal of getting healthier, and it was successful! I was so good about walking 6 miles a day and then last week I fell of the rails and didn’t meet my step goals. I normally wouldn’t talk about this here, but I think it’s important to have accountability.

Lets get real for a sec. I sometimes look like this (with lots of photoshop help I’m sure):

And more often I look like this:


Usually I have exercise/sweats on, crazy hair, no makeup and some acne. I think it’s important to be real. And to get extra real, Im trying really hard to get back to my LA weight. 2015 involved being in a new city known for it’s pizza, and also a snowy cold winter that basically meant being indoors for 4 months. The summer was spent at the Cape eating fried oysters (so much yum!) and lazily swimming in Sand Pond. 2015 was about relaxing and being cozy and eating whatever I wanted. The result of a glutinous 2015 means 2016 needs to be about undoing the damage of 2015.

What steps am I taking? How am I going to do this?

Well, baby steps right? I started by getting a fitbit and was gifted this awesome Kate Spade agenda that I’m using as a food+exercise diary. I happen to own a cheap $30 smoothie blender and have been making morning spinach/yogurt/pineapple smoothies (high in protein) in an attempt to curb my mid morning appetite. I also bought a special Life Factory water bottle to help encourage my water consumption. Im trying to focus on having a high protein + high fiber diet.

Where am I failing? Lets assess!

I’m not weighing myself (intensionally) so I can’t tell you the numbers, but I can tell you after 2 weeks I felt slimmer/tighter/healthier. Week three I upped my wood working productivity and that time was sucked from my exercise time. I was (pretty) good about food, but I need to be both good at my exercise time + with my diet. Both are so critical! I find myself getting snack hungry at night and I need to address that.

Fitness Goals for February

I’m now on a dodgeball league here in the New Haven area that meets once a week, so I’ll have a different type of exercise to mix it up. I need to be making my 12,000 steps a day goal every day. And in addition to that, I need to be jogging for an hour at the gym at least 3 times a week. Ill have to adjust my schedule to make it work but it’s totally reasonable to do it only 3 times a week. This upcoming Sunday I am running in the IRIS 5k in New Haven, and I think there’s one in March I need to sign up for next. You have to do what it takes right?

Goal for the Year

In fall my good friends are getting married in Los Angeles and I want to be back to my LA weight in time for the wedding (if not sooner). That’s a totally reasonable amount of weight to lose in a lengthy amount of time. I think it’s important to have a focus to think about when you’re at the gym and slowing down on the treadmill that helps you push through and kick it into gear.

I’ll update as I go (I think that’s important to keep me on track) and am open to any tips you have for me!


January 11, 2016

How’s the new year treating everyone? Are you sticking to your 2016 resolutions? We are officially one week in to 2016, and I’m not gonna lie- it was a rough one. Mercury is in retrograde so of course everything I own is falling to pieces, but it’s only temporary.

In this past week I’ve been working like crazy on B.Meyer Studio’s biggest project to date: an 8’x8′ display for a shop in New Haven. My fingers are crossed that the install will go well tonight and that it’ll look awesome! It’s a big undertaking so Im understandably nervous/excited.

Also this past week the temperatures dipped to being in the teens, and I was still able to get my 10,000 steps a day in. It wasn’t easy but I did it and I’m sticking to it. In fact I’ve made me reach goal to do 12,000 steps a day (6 miles). My goal is a healthier 2016, and Im sticking to it. I’ve been making morning smoothies and find it keeps me full well into the day. I’ve been trying to keep my water levels up (and balanced with bathroom access). I have a long journey ahead, but it’s not that bad.

Saturday I went into NYC for the day to catch up with some of my lovely RISD Interior Architecture girls. It was in the 40’s-50’s and surprisingly warm and thankfully dry (only a couple rain drops in there). I had such a nice day walking the high line and glasses shopping (mine broke this past week), visiting the World Trade Center Memorial and lighting exhibit at the Brookside Mall across street. We saw so much in a short time! I walked about 20,000 steps!

Sunday consisted of some woodworking, errands, food planning for the week and making dinner with my parents followed by a night of boardgames. What an exhausting but super fun weekend all around.

This week I’m going to focus on finding a balance between staying late to woodwork, working out, and going out to explore New Haven. My goal for the week is to do all of these things this week- a night for each.

Here are some photos from my Saturday in the City. The new Freedom Tower at One World Trade Center looks like it’s endless when you stand at the front and look straight up (#perspective). I love how the light at the top gives this illusion like the building goes straight to heaven. It’s quite powerful.

“Magic Hour, Every Hour” – Bryant Park sign

Looking Back at 2015, and Forward to 2016

You’ll notice my last post started with “looking forward to posting more frequently” and then it was met with radio silence. End of October led into November where everything let loose and resulted in losing two grandparents due to unrelated circumstances, all within four days of each other and on different parts of the U.S.. Dealing with deathbeds, funerals, and the aftermath of it all was all of November. Thanksgiving was essentially canceled. B.Meyer Studio participated in its first New Haven event at the start of December after barely being able to put it all together due to time issues. And then it was a mad dash to Christmas trying to get life caught up and back on track. I still feel behind but I’m looking forward to 2016 leveling out. 

Normally I do a big end of the year resolutions post recapping what goals I’ve made and what was kicked to the curb. I’ve decided this year to instead list my accomplishments and significant life events and not focus on shortcomings. I’m going easy on myself given what a hard year it’s been. 

In 2015 I not only lost my last remaining grandparents, but also four other people who made a significant impact in my life. Comedian Harris Wittels passed away early last year as well as Don, Ledell and Kat Mulvaney, three people who significantly impacted the person I’ve grown up to be. All four taken way too soon and all had so much left to give the world. Unfortunately it can’t be undone and life for the living continues with memories of them carrying me through. 2015 has definitely been a year of grieving. 

2015 was also the year that I got an apartment in New Haven, learned about this new small city and did my best to meet new friends. I feel like I have a lot left to learn and explore but 2015 was about learning the ropes.

In July 2015 I traveled to Iceland, camping the whole way, with two good friends from different parts of my life. I had a blast road tripping around that magnificent country. We were hobo’s in the safest country in the world. We went white water rafting, jumped from a small but scary (to me) cliff, hiked a glacier and climbed an ice wall. We ate amazing food and hung out in a puffin colony. It was all an unbelievable adventure. 

 Professionally 2015 was a year of learning about coil cords at Meyer Wire, renovating the offices, and of course expanding B.Meyer Studio. I made a lot of etsy sales, created a show room in Hamden and as of December, officially had items for sale in a shop in New Haven. It’s all been a work in processes trying to be a wood worker, designer, social media person, accountant, business woman, figure out packaging and advertising. I certainly haven’t mastered any of these but I like to think I’ll get better and better at all if these things the more I do all of them. And it gets easier right? 

I spent 3.5 months of 2015 with braces. I can’t believe I did that, but I’m also thankful for the reward: corrected teeth and a way to keep them from shifting as I get older. I’m no longer selfconscious about the “bad side” of my shifting smile. My smile is back to its former glory and no more snaggle tooth. 

2015 was a year were I really got to enjoy my parents having a house in Cape Cod. My waist-line certainly knows I was out there a lot (yummy fried oysters!). It was a year full of family time, board games, beach walks, swimming in Sand Pond and yummy seafood dinners. 

Lastly, 2015 was the year I got Oscar. After coming back from Iceland and spending the previous 6 months looking at petfinder everyday I finally made the leap, went to a few rescues and found my perfect companion, Oscar Meyer. He’s my shadow, my best friend, my baby, my snuggle monster, my everything.  Every day is better because he’s there with me. Being with him made the horrible parts of 2015 a little less horrible. 

As I look ahead at 2016 I have these goals in mind:

– Since getting Oscar I’ve had trouble balancing the guilt of being away from home while he’s locked up inside. I’ve decided in 2016 I’m going to be VERY active in New Haven and have no guilt about leaving him home (he actually enjoys the quiet time I think). This means doing all the things I used to do in La: triva nights, outdoor summer events and movies, hikes, farmers markets, trying new brunch places, and finding a non athletic team sport to try to meet people. I’m naturally inclined to stay home and be introverted, so 2016 will be about overcoming that anxiety about being social. I need to get off my butt and do it! I did that in LA, I can do it here! I’ll snuggle extra with Oscar when I get home to make it up to him. 

– Exercise. It’s no secret that I’ve gained weight since I’ve moved back home. Between New Haven’s amazing pizza and the seafood out in Cape Cod, 2015 was definitely the year of letting myself indulge. Also the extreme cold and snow last year made January to May super hard to be outside. There are just too many excuses not to exercise and this year I’ve decided not to accept that. 2016 will be the year I get my LA body back. Being healthy makes me feel better and I need to remember just how good that feels when it’s a blizzard outside and I need to force myself to get to the gym. Hopefully my new Fitbit will help push me too.

– Proffessionally I hope to continue and build on my shop items and also keep developing new items on the Meyer Wire side of the business. I hope by the end of 2016 to have items in shops around CT, for both MW and for BMeyer Studio. 

– Travel. In 2016 I will make at least one, but hopefully two trips to Los Angeles. I hope to also make a stop in Denver and make up for the canceled Thanksgiving. As for that 2 weeks off in July, I’m not sure what’s in store. I’m going to see where life takes me and decide later. I know leaving Oscar for two weeks sounds like a nightmare and I also am trying to save my pennies, so maybe it’ll be a camping road trip with Oscar? We shall see. 

As for right now, these are the most goals I can handle. One addition to this year will be a planner to help me keep track of all of the event si plan to go to (a gift to my 2016 self) and the other is a fancy water bottle to increase water drinking. That’s always a good goal and hopefully a new water bottle will keep that on track. 

What are your 2016 goals? They don’t have to be grand, but making goals can help keep you on track. 

Cheers to 2016! ❤️ Bethany & Oscar 

September 14, 2015 Update

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The summer has FLOWN by. Yesterday it was practically 90 degrees all day, and this morning it was so cold I wore a sweater to work…. it’s officially FALL! This has been the season I’m most excited for now that I’m back in New England. I arrived in New Haven in December of 2014, so I experienced a lot of cold, then a very quick spring followed by a very hot summer and now it’s finally fall!

My Fall list has already started; apple picking, pumpkin carving, a visit to Salem MA, etc all made it on there. I’m looking forward to a little fall wardrobe upgrade as I haven’t bought new nice clothes in forever. What gets you excited about fall? Is it the pumpkin spiced lattes?

I continually ache to keep this blog up to date, but my etsy shop has been off the hook. I keep playing with the idea of closing it for a week just to catch up. It’s hard to explore new designs and add to the shop when Im filling orders. The good thing is that the physical store (located in Hamden) is starting to take shape. I’ve also taken up weaving, which has been a great night time stress release. I can put on a movie and at the end I’ve made a decorative wall weaving. HERE‘s a great tutorial. I figure it’ll be good to add some soft items to the shop.


One fun creative project I was commissioned to make is this cedar chest with herringbone pattern. I’m really happy with how it came out and I look forward to developing this as a table top soon… I just need to find the time!!


As for Meyer Wire, I’m still in the process of installing the baseboards. It will look significantly better once I finish this, but I just need a solid few days of being able to knock these out. Im spread a little thin right now, but Im hopefully things will even out, as I make more work boundaries and allow for longer lead times on projects. I did make myself a Honey window sill that I love 🙂 Such a subtle but meaningful upgrade to the office.


I’ve spent a lot of my summer out in Cape Cod enjoying the summer and the perfect weather. I’ve been out there almost every weekend walking the beach looking for sharks (with no luck). We’ve been playing a ton of Settlers of Cattan, and of course eating fried oysters (yum!!). The diet officially starts now that fall is here.


Oscar update: He’s cute as ever and loves stealing my yarn.


July 27th Update

Time for updates. While I haven’t been able to blog regularly, it’s not because I haven’t been thinking about you. There’s just been so much going on!


B. Meyer Studio, LLC : When we last spoke my ETSY orders were through the roof and it’s been nonstop since I opened up the shop. I love the orders but Im also excited to develop new designs, so Ive temporarily set it to vacation mode until I can develop some new ideas I have floating around as well as finish up past orders.


Meyer Wire: It’s officially the second half of 2015 which is when I wanted to start developing the light fixtures. My goal is to finish up the Meyer Wire renovation and then start this process. While MW was closed in July we had the floors redone (!!! LOVE IT!) so now I just need to add in the trim, touch up paint and put a backsplash behind the sink. All stuff that can happen over time or at least over a weekend of work-time. Shortly, the light fixtures will start up.


Iceland: I spent the first two weeks of July in Iceland with my 2 good friends (one who came from London and the other from LA) camping and road tripping around the country. It was an amazing journey and we got to see so much. We went glacier climbing, white water rafting, I jumped from a small but scary cliff, and hung out with puffins. At some point a detailed post will be coming soon because I have lots to share and tons of tips for people who want to go.


Dog Update: Welcome Oscar Meyer to the blog! Ive wanted a dog forever but was waiting to get back from Iceland. Now that Im back, the dog hunt started. My Mom and I drove together into NYC to visit some shelters (as there are more small dogs available there). At the ASPCA I found this cutie. They said he’s a “poodle mix” but I think he looks half maltese and half bichon. He’s two years old and had a really rough first two years as he was abused and abandoned. After several surgeries and a lot of training, he’s doing a lot better. I have so much gratitude to the people who work at the ASPCA in NYC. What a fantastic facility, and large group of volunteers who really love these animals. We met with their vets, their behavioral specialist and several of his volunteers before we left the facility. He was definitely a staff favorite. After a rough 2 years, Im already spoiling him rotten and I vow to make it all up to him.


Teeth Update: (Photo from day 1 of braces) Ive had adult clear braces the past 2 months and Im starting on my final month (August) shortly. One more month, one more month… can you tell Im counting down the days? Iceland was a challenge with braces, but I made it work. and looking at the photo above, I can definitely see the change in my smile now. Especially that front tooth!

That’s it for now… just work work work, build build build and bark bark bark!

Happy Halloween!

Happy Halloween everyone!! BIG NEWS! Life Absorbed’s past Halloween photos made it onto Buzzfeeds top 22 Best Iconic TV Costumes for Halloween! My college group costume of Golden Girls made the list (I’m Rose), and so did last years Lamb Chop and Shari Lewis costume! How exciting!

Now I’ve given you some costume ideas in THIS POST and even given you clues like this picture…


Can you tell who I’m going as? Jessica Fletcher (aka Angela Lansbury) in Murder She Wrote!




Here’s a breakdown of the costume:

The wig was $28 total from Wilshire Wigs ($5 off for buying off the mannequin). The sweater, shirt, and book were $7 total at Salvation Army. I spray painted the book and hand painted “Murder, She Wrote” using paint I already owned. The scarf was $12 at Marshalls, and the pants were $8 in the Target clearance rack. The socks, shoes and magnifying glass were recycled from 2011’s Nancy Drew costume. The clip on earrings were hand-me-downs from relatives. In total I spent $55 and hopefully I can reuse some of the elements (like my fun new scarf!).

I hope you all are having a spooktacular holiday! BOO!